Here’s a story of a Karate Student from Colorado doing more the using his hands and feet! 14 year old Benjamin Black attended the 2005 National Geographic Bee after winning at the State level. While Ben didn’t win he demonstrated the Martial Spirit (Budo). Congratulations Ben! It goes to show you that achievement is a big part of any martial artists life.
Once again the children suffer. It is unfortunate that parents are not more aware of the dangers to their children. My Father always use to say ‘you don’t know what goes on in other people’s homes after they close the doors’. He was right. Inline with his beliefs my Father never let us sleep over someone else’s house. Matter of fact it wasn’t until we were teenagers that we could go to someone else’s home without one of my parents present! Many of you reading this can close you gaping jaws now! My parents were not ogres, they were caring individuals who felt their job as parents was to protect us (not shelter us) from the world, they preserved our innocence.
So what does this have to do with anything. Well there is another story of a child, in this case an 11 year old girl, being molested by a ‘pillar of the community’. In this case the molester was a cop. The mother admits that she was suspicious of the mans interest in her daughter because he showed NO interest in her (the mother). The should of been a BIG ALERT but instead the mother ignored her maternal instincts and allowed the man access to her daughter. I know it sounds like I am vilifying the mother here, and to some extent I am. She is guilty of putting her daughter in harms way. I am sure there are a million excuses for her actions but that doesn’t change the fact that her daughter has at the young age of 11 lost her innocents and will probably have difficulty having a normal relationship with or at least trusting men.
Interestingly the girl only told her mother about the abuse after her school showed a video on inappropriate touching. The school had to educate this girl!! Again, what was the mother doing? I am not suggesting that parents should have graphic discussions with their children about appropriate or inappropriate behavior between a man and a woman. I am suggesting that parents should talk to the children in an appropriate manner given the age of the child. This discussion should grow as your child grows. In those rare occasions when you have no choice to surrender your children to others make sure they are people you know well. And even then once your children are home with you ask them (surreptitiously) about the details of their time away from you. Watch for behavioral changes. Take your blinders off and see what is really going on, not just what you want to see through your trusting rose-colored glasses.
How is this related to Karate?! Well this story began in a Karate Class where the girl was taking classes. But please don’t take my word for it, read the article yourself.
Please remember people often have ulterior motives for their actions. Any adult (especially a man) that wants to spend extensive ‘private’ time with young children should be severely examined. As an adult we need to be aware of the appearance of our behavior regardless of how honorable our intentions. Remember the cop in the story went on to kill his wife before fleeing. That could have just as easily been the 11 year old girl.