So here we are in the beginning of a New Year, well 18 days into a new year doesn’t seem so new any more but it is. Tonight we are receiving our first snow fall of the season, we thought it would never happen. It is beautiful but I miss the 73 degree weather of two short weeks ago! It seems that this time of year gets us talking about change. Personal changes, changes in our jobs and families. Physical Changes in our homes and our bodies and our appearances. I am no exception to the rule, I’ll be honest I have set some goals (resolutions) for the new year. I usually don’t but this year the new year just happened to coincide with a turning point in my life. Nothing major just the finishing of one “project” and the opening for a new project. So here we are at day 18 like addicts in a 12 step program trying to force ourselves to stick to some pie in the sky aspiration we have! “I want to make a million dollars“; no, “I am going to loose 100 pounds!” Why do we set such unattainable goals for ourselves? There are only two answers in my mind; one, we are naive or two, we like setting ourselves up to fail. I find the later is more common. It isn’t that you don’t want those things, it is that you don’t believe. In you non-believer state you set yourself up to fail…period.
What to do? Well for one stop kidding yourself about what you are ready to do. That’s right I said ready. Because you can do almost anything you set your mind on if you work hard enough for it, at least here in America you can. Yes there are always stumbling stones and excuses a-plenty if you need them! But if you really want something, if you have the passion for your goal, you won’t want excuses and you will simply climb over the stumbling stones. At this point in my life I am beginning to realize the concept and importance of time. Time is a great teacher if we listen. Time gives us perspective but it can also instill us with cynicism or skew our perspective so we forget all this and feel our plight hopeless. Bull$h!t! We allow that to happen, if it does. Trust me I have had my body torn apart more times then I care to remember. It would be easy for me to make excuses as to why I can’t do this or couldn’t do that, to easy. Instead I choose to live, and, work slowly towards my goals, my ideals, my resolutions by focusing not on the far away but by that which is attainable before me.
Baby Steps. This is a great term and a lesson most of us seem to forget after toddler-hood. Remember it the next time you workout for the first time in a while or when you are trying something hard. Don’t expect to be the best the first time. Don’t lift more then you should that first session, find your stride. There is no shame in trying slowly, the only shame is in Not Trying. So when you shudder at the thought of working out or you make the excuse that you don’t have time…drop and give me 20! Because 20 pushups only takes a minute or two and they will motivate you to do more and more. So start slow but keep moving and you will attain your goals. And like this new snow it will be a surprise when it comes.